Sean Smith & Stephanie Fleites
Stephanie Fleites calls herself the ‘mom’ of her tailgating contingent.
The group, made up of college friends who graduated from Miami in the Classes of 2011 and 2012, including Sean Smith, is mostly spread up and down the east coast.
That means that Fleites – one of the few who still lives in Miami – is the one who does most of the wrangling leading into game day.
“We learned quickly when we were on our own that all these things you never thought of, can make or break a tailgate,” Fleites said. “Nobody has ketchup. Nobody has plates or napkins.”
Fleites, who graduated one year ahead of Smith, said the group now splits tailgate responsibilities. Smith, who lives in Orlando, is responsible for the truck that carries the grill. Their other friend, Charlie, handles the music and drives down speakers from Tampa.
“If you think about it, tailgating – in terms of the depth of the experience – is not that deep, but the simple fact of interacting people, talking to people, spending time with people…those are the bare bones of a friendship,” Smith said. “The more you can do that, regardless of where you are, the stronger that friendship is. You get to the point where even if you haven’t seen that person for however long, that is someone you would still consider a friend for life.”
For Smith, the evolution and development of those friendships, including that of Fleites’, means more than anything.
“Steph brought a guy that she’s dating to a tailgate,” Smith said. “Over the years he went from a guy she’s dating to boyfriend to fiancé to husband. You get to see and experience people’s lives in a way that just feels easy. You’re hanging out with them and spending time with them.”
Though they were unable to gather in 2020 at Hard Rock Stadium due to the COVID-19 pandemic, the group plans on resuming their normal Saturday routine this fall.
“We had a very big Zoom call to watch ‘The U’ documentaries together the quarantine,” Fleites said. “That’s what we did in lieu of tailgating. I’ll be ready for the fall, for sure.”