Like most parents, Soni and Rob Likens have cherished every moment of watching their son grow up. But the couple’s journey to becoming parents was challenging and came with its share of heartbreak.
For years, they tried unsuccessfully to have a baby before doctors informed them they’d more than likely need assistance in the form of in-vitro fertilization, a costly, complicated process that isn’t always successful.
Still, the Likenses had hope the procedure would work. They relied on their faith to guide them through the process and eventually, they learned Soni was pregnant.
It was a moment more than a decade in the making and needless to say, the couple was thrilled – if still a bit cautious.
“The first thought that came into my head was ‘With man, it’s impossible but with God, it’s possible.’ We always continued to believe,” Rob Likens said. “We were so excited, but very guarded obviously. We just kind of stayed in that moment for a long time. We were really thankful. We were excited, but you get a little calloused because of the things that had happened in the past. Then towards the end, that’s when it starts to settle in and you’re like ‘This is really happening.’”
Once that reality set in, Likens started trying to come to terms with what fatherhood would mean for him, personally.
The coach – then the offensive coordinator at Central Connecticut State – knew he’d have to try and strike the right balance between his demanding career and being the kind of father he knew he wanted to be, the kind of father he hadn’t had himself after his parents’ divorced.
Though Likens and his father reconnected and began repairing their relationship by the time Likens was in high school, the coach still remembers how difficult it was not having his father present during his early childhood.
There were times he felt anger, times he was discouraged. He knew he wanted better for his own family one day. His resolve only grew stronger the moment he first saw Cutter.
“When they held him up and he let out the biggest scream in the world – I still have that picture in my mind – that’s when it all hit me,” Likens said. “The emotions, the feeling. It all just hit me at that moment and now, I don’t know if there’s a day that goes by before I leave the house that I don’t walk into his room while he’s sleeping and I pray for him and I whisper in his ear that I love him. Same thing every night before I go to bed. If I’m going to err, it’s going to be on the side of telling him that I love him too much.”